Man banishes his mother-in-law from his family home after she digs through their trash and confronts his wife about their infertility struggles: ‘[It’s] none of her business'

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  • AITJ for telling my mother-in-law she is no longer allowed to visit after she went through our trash?
  • My mother-in-law (60sF) has always been... a lot. She means well, but she has no sense of boundaries. She lives ten minutes away and used to stop by unannounced
  • constantly until my wife (30F) and I (31M) put our foot down. The final straw happened last week. We have been trying to start a family
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  • and have been going through fertility treatments. It's been an emotional and private journey. We had a negative result from our latest round, which was devastating. I cleaned out
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  • the bathroom cabinet where we kept the tests and other medical supplies and threw it all in the kitchen trash before taking the bag out to the curb.
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  • The next day, my MIL showed up at our door, crying. She held up the used pregnancy test and a box of fertility dr_s from the trash and demanded to know why
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  • we didn't tell her we were trying, why it failed, and what was wrong with us. I was furious. I told her that going through our trash was a massive
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  • violation of privacy and that our medical journey was none of her business. She said she was "just helping take the trash out" and "couldn't help but notice." I lost my
  • temper and told her she was no longer welcome in our home until she could learn to respect basic boundaries.
  • Now my wife is caught in the middle. She agrees her mom was wrong but thinks my reaction was too harsh and that I should apologize for yelling. She says her mom
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  • is just "overly involved" because she cares. I refuse to apologize. AITJ? TLDR: My mother-in-law went through our kitchen
  • trash, found private medical waste related to our fertility struggles, and confronted us about it. I banned her from our house and now my wife thinks I'm a j for it.
  • Euphoric_Ball_1383 · You: ntj. Your wife and mother in law, however, are. Your mil for obvious reasons. Your wife for not going off on her mother herself, and doubly so for expecting you to apologize.
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  • retiredagainstmywill ⚫ Sorry, man. Unless your wife stops defending your lunatic mil, your relationship will keep suffering until it's over. And the stress that loon is putting on you and your wife will keep producing negative results.
  • Time to make an ultimatum, or spend years regretting this exact moment.
  • EnvMarple Ntj Your mother in law is a whack job. She needs serious boundaries enforced on her until her behaviour changes.
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  • 8amteetime · Change the locks. Keep her out of your house until she apologizes to you for invading your privacy. She created this situation, not you, so you owe her nothing.

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